Every Tuesday, I have a “Little Chat with Shannon” live stream in the 52 Cues Community. This topic was on my mind recently.

We’ve been chatting a bit about healthy communication. There have been some positive examples—and negative ones!—in the recent podcasts and discussions around the controversial (really??) TAXI/Library feedback question. Last week, we talked about the perils of triangulation. Conscious communication is an important key in our success in the industry.

Words hold immense power. They have the ability to shape our reality, influence our beliefs, and impact our relationships. "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz is a quick and easy-to-understand book that talks about “agreements” we make in life.

The idea is that agreements are belief systems that we have bought into, whether willingly or unwillingly, knowingly or unknowingly. Many of the beliefs we hold about ourselves and the world are rooted in agreements we made unknowingly as a child. The words and opinions of others shapes our perception of who we are and what we can achieve. When we begin to question these agreements, we can find the power to redefine beliefs about ourselves and create a more empowering narrative for ourselves and others!

The first agreement, "Be impeccable with your word," resonates deeply with me. It goes beyond simply keeping promises or speaking honestly. It reminded me of the importance of using my words consciously, both towards myself and others. I learned to be kinder in my self-talk, replacing negative thoughts like “I’ll never get this done” and “It’s just my luck that this bad situation is affecting me,” with “I will be proud of my work, so let’s get moving!” and “I don’t love what’s happening right now, but these situations always bring some clarity and goodness.”

I also became more aware of the impact my words had on those around me. We can often walk through life judging ourselves and other people, criticizing and tearing people down. That leads to SO. MUCH. DRAMA!

But I can’t begin to tell you the transformative power of positive communication. Becoming aware that our words are creative (or destructive), we can choose to communicate positively in a way that honors ourselves and others. Becoming more mindful of our words leads to improved relationships, greater trust, and supportive environments. Our words have the ability to inspire, encourage, and build connections.

So, how can you start working toward mindful communication?

• Self-reflection. In what areas does this issue crop up? Paying attention to situations where negativity or judgment crept in.

• Make a conscious effort to replace negative self-talk with self-compassion and self-empowerment.

• Avoid engaging in gossip, speculation, and spreading negativity.

• Focus on positive and constructive conversations, no matter how difficult the topic.

I transformed from being sarcastic and judgy to much happier, saner, and more peaceful—and guess what? It improved my relationships, allowed people to trust me, and opened doors for career advancement and entrepreneurial enterprise!

This is what I’m currently reading:

“The Four Agreements”

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